How to Effect Change in One Simple Step

Step 1: DO SOMETHING 

Literally. Go out and DO SOMETHING. 

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.
— John Quincy Adams

It's very easy to hide behind a keyboard, voicing your judgement of other people's beliefs and actions with no real confrontation. It's easy to delete the comment, or the person who's opinions differ from your own without ever having to reconcile your own belief system. It's easy to push things to the side or ignore the problem or the facts or blame others instead of taking responsibility for your own actions. It's easy. 

When did we become a society of people who choose to take the easy way; who choose to blame others for our circumstances instead of realizing that we alone have the power to make change in our lives - to better ourselves and work towards becoming better human beings?

When did we become so self-centered that we forgot that our actions do not just affect us, but those who surround us, love us... put up with us at our best, and our worst?

When did we stop believing that putting simple kindness out in to the world could make it better; that truly caring for those around you and giving grace and forgiveness and having empathy were things that are needed every day in this world? 

I may not know much, but I do know this: We do not have to practice misery. Life gives us enough of that on it's own. So maybe instead of letting things divide us, we should be looking for the things that will bring us together. 

Maybe, just maybe, spending some time making our own little corner of the world better would inspire others to do the same. It may not seem like much, but I have seen first hand what a simple kindness can do - what taking the time to make someone else's day just a little bit better can do - what not being an asshole can do... 

Stop spending your time being an armchair coach, a backseat driver... a social media activist. Instead, go out in to your community and volunteer. Make change. DO SOMETHING. 

How to Build Your Confidence: Or... My Imaginary Friend...

Because... Like a boss.

Because... Like a boss.

So I know I promised a post about my childhood imaginary friend, but I feel like I need to clarify. She wasn’t an imaginary friend; she was more like an alter-ego. Her name was Cassandra, and she came out when I put on these big white sunglasses that my aunt had.

I don’t remember how she came to be, but I do know that Cassandra was awe.some. She could do anything. She was outgoing, strong, funny (duh) and beautiful. But mostly, she wasn’t afraid. There was no hesitation when I had those glasses on… only doing.

Cassandra allowed me to be all of the things I didn’t yet know I wanted to be. Independent, inventive, sassy… I was a Boss at age 6 and I didn’t even know it!

I usually forget about Cassandra until my mom randomly brings her up, but thinking about it, I owe her a big Thank You. Cassandra allowed me to be all of the things I didn’t yet know I wanted to be. Independent, inventive, sassy… I was a Boss at age 6 and I didn’t even know it!

Which brings me to my real point (I know, I know… the other part was so good). Why do we forget about those parts of ourselves? The parts that were wild and free and adventurous and crazy?  Why do we forget that every superhero has an alter-ego, which,  with the exception of Tony Stark, is typically more timid and reserved. More importantly, why do we feel the need to wear big sunglasses to let those parts of ourselves shine?

This post was really just an excuse for me to use badass pictures...

This post was really just an excuse for me to use badass pictures...

I am so thankful to my aunt, who encouraged us to have big imaginations (and also corrected my grammar. All. The. Damn. Time), and my parents who encouraged following our hearts, and dreams. And of course I’m thankful to Cassandra, who taught me at a very young age that you don’t need a costume to be your own unique, fabulous self.

All you need is a pair of white sunglasses.

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